Keys So That The “scolding” Really Serve Something

It is not only scolding but also educating. Here we give you some keys so that the “scolding” really serve something beneficial in the education of your children.

Discipline is essential for children to become good people. Some parents seem to believe that discipline involves harsh treatment, including threats, insults, and put-downs. However, discipline with cruelty does not educate or correct children. Rather, it makes it clear that parents must correct with love.  Of course, sometimes some punishment may need to be meted out. But even in such cases, the child must always understand the reason.

The most important thing to correct a son is to show him that you want the best for him as a son and that is why you are correcting him. Many parents do not explain why they are calling their children attention and the child, not understanding the situation, rebels, seeks the guidance of other people, sometimes schoolmates, friends or neighbors.

There is no magic key for scolding to be effective, but like everything else, the sum of many things achieves the desired and most effective result.  What are some keys to making “scolding” really work for something?

Know some keys

• Parents united : children observe the tension between parents when a decision is made. For example: the mother may scold her child for not finishing homework, throwing clothes on the floor, not cleaning her room, etc. Instead of supporting the mother’s decision, the father makes an excuse and even hints that he doesn’t either. The scolding will fall on deaf ears, for which they must rely on discipline.

• Take control : show who is the boss at home and that you are in control.
• Be clear and direct: you do not have to make up the orders as it will confuse the child. Example: “My dear, do you want to pick up your room, please?” The scolding should be clear and firm so that he understands what to do and what not to do.
• Be firm: after scolding because your child has done something wrong, he will look like a good boy wanting to appeal to his feelings and avoid punishment. Don’t let him get away with it.  You will lose control and your scolding loses effect.

• Discipline: discipline is the instruction of a person with the objective of learning to obey or control himself through rules and punishments. Of course, you should never be unreasonable or mistreat the child. But if he is not punished according to what he has done, he will never get better.

• Be loving: the family is neither a democracy nor a dictatorship. Discipline is part of the educational process. By lovingly disciplining your child, you will help him to be obedient and to feel safe and loved.
• Not always scolding: parents do not want to look like an ogre and that the house instead of being a warm home is a storm all the time, instead of nagging they should take time to relax a little before talking or correcting their children.

The scolding should be firm, clear, show who is in control and that it is beneficial both now and for the rest of your life. Scolding will continue in school, work, and family as long as it is determined for a purpose which is to improve performance . It is thanks to the scolding that we observe that we are doing something wrong because we all make mistakes and need correction.

Do not dedicate yourself only to scold but also to educate, teach, correct and discipline with love so that the children grow up in a safe, stable home with rules but not thinking that it is impossible to do the right thing, that they do not feel rejected, but that by On the contrary, every time he makes a mistake, he will have someone who wants to correct him so that he can do better and thus the scolding will have a lasting and effective effect.

Many parents did not have a loving education and therefore do not know how to scold meaningfully, but it is never too late to change. So, analyze the situation, correct it, and move on.