How To Keep Order With More Than One Child At Home?

Maintaining order with more than one child at home is impossible: so some mothers would say, especially those who go through this situation. Because if a single child is able to turn the house upside down, two, or more, can completely tear it down. But the feat is achieved, the only thing is that the whole family cooperates (we mean adults), lead by example and demand.

In You Are Mom we explain how to achieve it. We intend to focus the subject towards two aspects that anyone can be close to: the order with the children’s belongings, and the order with respect to their behavior.

Order with children’s belongings: A place for everything and everything in its place

To maintain order within the house, each property must be given a place. If the brothers have separate rooms, fine, each one will be responsible for their own. You will have to take care of the cleanliness or help with her cleaning, pick up her clothes and shoes from the floor, place her books in the bookcase in an orderly manner.

Each child will help fold the laundry and put it in the closet, make their bed when they get up, and keep everything in its place. But if the brothers share the same room, the scenario is complicated. Here it will be necessary to delimit spaces and belongings: one belongs to one and the other belongs to the other; Likewise, each person will have the responsibility of caring for and sanitizing.

To carry out the rule of: a place for everything and everything in its place, the family must have cabinets, shelves and drawers inside the children’s room or rooms so that they have enough space to store their things . No mixing them. If a drawer is for underwear, there does not have to be school supplies. A closet that is for storing clothes should not have hanging bags or soccer shoes on its door, unless Mom has ordered it.

Keep in mind that even if the rooms are yours within them, the house rules must prevail.

The order regarding children’s behavior: One for all and all for one

As well as the motto of the three musketeers, you must teach your children that as brothers they have to help each other, love each other and get along. Children who constantly fight over their toys, their turn to the bathroom, the place at the table and the affection of their parents, are not happy, nor do they let adults be. No one can live in peace with their children in constant quarrel.

Mom, even if this is not what is sought, you should know that the excessive competition between siblings, not infrequently, has its genesis in education and the treatment that their parents give them.

Let’s take an example:

If mother constantly praises Pedro’s qualities and does not mention Juan’s, puts him as an example to his brother and applauds everything he says or does, of course the son deprived of attention: Juan, will show resentment and will begin to see his brother Pedro as his main rival, the one who steals his mother’s affection and whom he will surely want to become.

If dad only attends Pedro’s sports activities and must always work when Juan’s play, he only talks to the first one about the breakdown of his car, teaches him to drive and occasionally lets him take the car out of the garage, of course that Juan will look at his brother with suspicion.

At any moment Pedro will begin to behave like the favorite son, he will take the liberties that Juan does not have and will make them known to his brother. That will be the trigger for the first fights making order, in that home, impossible.

How to keep order with more than one child at home?

Mom, to keep order with more than one child at home, keep in mind the two tips we gave you:

The first: Delimit the spaces and belongings of each one and likewise, divide the responsibilities and demand that they are fulfilled. Even children who share the same toys must divide up the task of picking them up when they are done playing. Everyone should know which toy is to keep and where to store it.

The second: Avoid comparing or praising the qualities of one of your children in front of the other, or in places where they can listen to you. It is not necessary to arouse the envy of one or the resentment of the other. If you are going to reward and applaud the virtues and behavior of one, do it also with those of the other.

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