In My House They Give Kisses And Hugs, They Say Thanks And Good Morning
The house, the home, is the first social environment that our son is going to find. Beyond the physical decoration, there is that emotional and educational furniture that will guarantee the psychological integrity of the child, where kisses, hugs or learning to give thanks will make him a happier, more respectful and wonderful person.
Something that both sociologists and psychologists know very well is that the dynamics that occur behind the closed windows of a home directly determine a person. What happens inside those walls is sometimes a reduced version of society itself, where a democratic or dictatorial education can be erected.
At the same time, something that as mothers and fathers we should be very clear from the beginning is the type of approach that we are going to follow in parenting. Every word, every act and every gesture will be imprinted not only in the brain of that little one, but also in that subtle and invisible fabric that makes up a home.
Experts in the psychological climate of an environment know that the interactions created between members of a social group, such as a family, almost unknowingly build an entire atmosphere where, often, a quick emotional reading can be made. Sometimes, it is enough to see a face or the tone of voice with which the members of a house communicate to know if happiness reigns there or if it is unhappiness that floods the floors and walls.
We must become aware of this fact: a home is a refuge and a psychological and emotional reference for every child. So let’s build the most beautiful house, the most welcoming, joyful and meaningful for that new life.
My house is small, but the hearts that live in it are very big
There are houses that are bigger inside than outside . There are houses where it is enough to cross the threshold to aspire the balance, the affection printed on the faces, the respect floating in the environment and the happiness of a child who grows up thinking that he is in a castle.
These are undoubtedly the happiest homes, where these characteristics generally occur that are worth reflecting on for a few moments.
A home where positive emotions rule
The houses where positive emotions rule are homes where their tenants are people skilled in Emotional Intelligence.
- For positive emotions to be present, it is necessary that we have learned to manage the negative ones : when there is an anger, for example, nobody hides it or hides it, but rather it is spoken aloud, with respect and assertiveness to reach agreements.
- In turn, these types of houses where happiness and harmony live, are made up of people who understand empathy, who are able to step into the shoes of the other to understand their perspective and know how to give solutions.
- On the other hand, a happy home is one that educates through positive emotional caresses, such as hugs, closeness, kisses and that kind fabric where every child feels valued and protected.
A house that educates with values
Educating with noble values is a tool with which to give the world more civic people, more concerned about other people, about nature and about building a world with more harmony.
- Since parents are the first referents in this social fabric, it is very positive that from early on we initiate them into acts as simple as learning to thank, to say sorry, to say good morning, to make use of that terminology that goes far beyond simple courtesy.
- We cannot forget that after these social displays of respect, the child will learn very early what effect they cause around him. When you say thank you or say I’m sorry, you will almost immediately perceive that they are words of power, gestures of approach where you win respect, friendship and recognition.
Values are social constructions where a noble way of understanding the world and life is integrated, therefore, if we start them in dimensions such as love of nature, animals, the value of equality , of justice, of the recognition of the weak, of helping others, of reading, knowledge or freedom, we will be giving the world very special people.
To conclude, never forget that a house is much more than walls with windows where we can take refuge and live. In a house you live together and it is, after all, a second mother’s womb where a child will learn the most important things.
Images courtesy of IWONA LIFSCHES
