Teach Your Child To Share With Other Children
When getting our children to learn to share seems mission impossible, we only need to know practical methods to strengthen this value.
Sharing for children is a process that should be part of their learning. Although it may seem simple, it is not always. To achieve this goal you need dedication, love and a lot of patience.
It is essential that techniques are applied to control anxiety and frustration, to ensure that your child does not become impatient when, for example, he has to wait his turn.
We must bear in mind that from the age of 3 the child can consciously assume the act of sharing. If your choice is to teach him this value from a very young age, you should be aware that it may be difficult for him to distinguish if something belongs to him or is another child’s.
Explaining clearly the benefits of “sharing” is very important. You can facilitate the learning process with examples related to their friends, classmates, etc.
Not everything you have in your hands belongs to you
The sense of belonging is difficult to manage, because children tend to confuse that an object or toy belongs to them or belongs by right when they play for a long time.
In moments of tantrums or disagreements, it is appropriate to reinforce with the phrase “not everything you have in your hands belongs to you.” We recommend that you involve him with other children after he enjoys himself and that he learns to return the object with which he was having fun.
Having the necessary empathy will help us understand our children’s feelings and facilitate the teaching process. The idea is that you understand the concept and the benefits of sharing without feeling pressured. If you force it or act hostilely, you can get completely counterproductive results.
Share: The child imitates actions
Explaining through our actions how you can share with your friends or family is one of the best learning tools you can use. Some ways for kids to see the importance of sharing are highlighted below:
- Sharing something that they like (not necessarily a toy) could make them understand that the intention is to enjoy both.
- That children see the value of sharing in different situations every day at home, will help them to adopt the same patterns.
- We must promote moments to meet friends in which the behavior of sharing is reinforced and they are helped to understand the importance of applying it at all times.
- It is necessary to have words that motivate him and congratulate him when he manages to share.
- Sharing should not be forced, on the contrary, it should always be a negotiation in which your child understands that he also wins by doing so.
- Sensitize him with what the friend feels when he does not share, including how he feels in cases of the opposite situation. In this way you will be given the opportunity to experience the feeling of sadness or frustration that they feel when they do not do it with him either.
- Define in advance which things are your own and which are in common use. This conducive to apply it in parks or public places so that it is clear which are the objects of general use.
- The value of respect for our children is very important, let us avoid taking away their toys to please another child, care must be taken, since we can generate the opposite effect.
- Avoid making comparisons with other children, this is a learning process where not everyone achieves it at the same time and this does not mean that they are better or worse, only that they are unique beings
Moms and dads must not forget that achieving habits in our children is not something that is established quickly, or from one day to the next. These processes are sometimes slow and can make us feel unmotivated.
Let us help to form happy children, who manage to grow with values instilled with love and not by force. Remember the verbal repressions are etched in their minds causing aversion to what we wanted to teach.
You will be able to feel happy when your child learns to share, because you are raising and educating your child to be a person of integrity and friendly in any environment that unfolds.
