A Child Needs To Fly, Not Chain Himself To Adults

Children need wings to fly and you must teach them to take flight. No child should go with his wings tied behind his back, letting his life waste away just because he has chained himself to adults . 

Freedom does not begin when you are an adult or when you ‘earn’ after you have turned 18 and have learned what responsibility is. Freedom begins from birth.

Children when they come into this world are completely dependent on the adults around them to survive and grow both physically and emotionally. Many parents are dedicated to keeping their babies and children healthy, they think that physical health is the most important thing. Children must be well fed and at the slightest sign of illness they go to the doctor quickly to find a solution. This is fine, so it should be.

But there is also another fundamental part that is not seen from the outside but that is just as important (or more) than physical health: emotional health. When the emotional health of children is taken care of, then without realizing it we will be teaching them to fly with their own wings without having to depend on adults to solve situations, they alone will be able to do it.

Basic concepts to take care of the wings of the children

There are some basic concepts to take care of the wings of the children, that is, so that they have a good mental and emotional health that allows them to believe in themselves and that they are capable of achieving what they want. Parents as guides and teachers are responsible for ensuring that their children receive words of encouragement, that they are their greatest support and that they also do not lack love. Some basic concepts are:

• Provide unconditional love in the family
• Boost self-confidence and improve self-esteem
• Give children the opportunity to play with other children
• Children’s reference adults should not restrict their freedom but rather be a support
• Promote a safe environment
• Provide appropriate guidance and positive discipline at home
• Children should know that they are the most important thing in the life of their parents

Love, security, and acceptance should be at the center of family life with children. They need to know that their parents’ love does not depend on their achievements or the goals they achieve. Mistakes and / or defeats are a great learning opportunity and that is why they must be accepted. A child where his home is filled with unconditional love and affection will have much more confidence in himself and his wings to fly.

Nurture confidence and self-esteem to unleash the adult

Children need to be unleashed from adults, who when they grow up do not depend on them or their wishes to act or make their own decisions. In this sense, it is very important that parents play an active role and provide children with moments of internal learning, personal development and, of course, empathy and assertiveness. How to get it?

• Praise your children. It fosters their ability to learn new things and to develop a desire to explore and learn what is around them through praise. Allow children to explore and play in a safe area where you know they cannot hurt themselves.

• Be an active participant in their activities. Talk to them with a smile and listen to everything they have to say to you. Your attention helps them build their confidence and improve their self-esteem.
• Set realistic goals. Young children need realistic goals that match their ambitions with their actual capabilities. With your help, children will be able to choose activities that test their abilities and increase their self-confidence.

• Be honest. Don’t hide your failures from your children. It is important for children to learn that we all make mistakes, that we learn from them, and that adults are not perfect.
• Avoid sarcasm. If a child doesn’t win a competition or fails an exam, think about how they must feel about it. Children when they get discouraged need a conversation, then when they are ready a plan for improvement can be created.

• Encourage your children. Encourage your children to create a better version of themselves each time, but also to learn to enjoy the present and the process. They will learn to spread their wings to fly on their own.