Give Him Freedom To Learn From His Mistakes
If you give your child the freedom to learn from his mistakes, you are telling him that you trust him, that even when he made a mistake, you know that he has enough intelligence to make better decisions.
You also indicate that you respect him as a child and a human being, you have the assurance that he will know how to recover and get up having increased his wisdom.
What does it mean to give a child freedom?
Setting a child free is not exposing him to danger and removing supervision from him to venture out at his own risk. It is being aware of your life but without the unhealthy mania of interfering in your daily actions.
Every time a child is given freedom, he is being offered the opportunity to decide making use of his experiences, desires and needs, and at the same time that he is allowed to decide, the responsibility for his actions is placed on his shoulders.
Perhaps, taking into account that a few months ago, the word freedom came to the world, to mothers, it may sound a bit harsh.
However, for that “little one” to get to know the world in which he lives, he needs to see it as it is, without being all the time by the hand of his protector or in the bubble of love that contains him. In short, he must prepare himself so that the joys, responsibilities and troubles of youth do not take him by surprise.
At what times should a child be given freedom?
You must give your child freedom in the things that concern him. Say, in the sport you want to play and for which you have an aptitude. Not because you dreamed of being a great cyclist he must have the same dream. This cannot be your pretext to manipulate him and even demand that he practice that sport.
Likewise, you must give him freedom in decision-making as long as the possible disaster, the one you see looming, is not too expensive. For example, if next week he will have an important test and he wants to go on vacation with his friends all weekend, of course, no matter how much he asks you, you will not be able to give him the pleasure, because not studying could cause him to suspend the exam.
That is why you must assess when to give him freedom, when to influence his determinations, or prohibit something certain.
When is a child ready for his parents to give him freedom?
A child is ready for his parents to give him freedom when he is mature enough and responsible for himself. If you have shown that you are trustworthy and know how to behave when you are not under parental supervision, then you may be awarded the precious prize of autonomy.
For this there is no fixed age, we know that there are 8-year-old children much more responsible than others of 15. Everything is in the training and the judgment that each one has.
That is why it is necessary to assess what the child is capable of doing, how he behaves, if I give him the freedom to do this, how he is capable of acting when a problem arises … well. Parents should know in which situations and when is the best time to let go of the child.
In this sense, it is best to find a goal on which to focus to give it freedom of action.
Let’s say, you never give him permission to play with his friends in the park and less when there is a ball in between, because a ball that escapes to the street is a real hook to attract accidents. However, your child is old enough to have fun and take care of himself at the same time.
What can you do then?
Prepare it, open its eyes.
Your child must know the risks to which he is exposed when he is away from home. You have to teach them road safety rules such as: always walk on the sidewalks, look both ways before crossing the street, do not run to look for the ball if it escapes, do not cross the street at corners, do not wear hearing aids that prevent hearing the car horn …
Every time it is your turn to give him freedom, because that is how life itself will condition it and even your son will demand it, you must show him all the dangers that he will run in his new feat and teach him how to take better care of himself.
Give him the freedom to learn from his mistakes
Mom, in his constant battle your son is going to make many mistakes, more than you would like. But it is through trial and error that you will learn to make better and better decisions,
Give him the freedom to learn from his mistakes even if you are always willing to advise and help him at the right time.
